The Art of Sexual Healing
by Evalena Rose, M.A.
is a beautiful way to heal wounded sexuality and give you
back your body and your life. It combines the ancient spiritual
arts of sacred connection to yourself and others, gleaned
from the wisdom traditions of many paths, including Buddhism,
Hinduism, Sufism and Native American spirituality. Using deep
and intentional breathing, imagery and movement, tantra moves
the kundalini or vital life force (prana) through the chakras,
opening and energizing them, bringing you home to yourself.
I began Tantra quite "by accident" during a time when I was
most disgruntled with my sexuality, feeling so little pleasure
I didn't care if I ever made love again. When a friend gifted
me a 7 day workshop in Hawaii, I thought only of sun, beaches
and time to laze around. When it struck me I was in a workshop
on sexuality, I thought "Oh, my God, what have I done now?"
7 days changed my life forever. I learned my body is my own,
I can set boundaries and allow only touch I desire, and I
can feel desire and passion even without a partner. That week
restored my holy relationship with myself. I learned that
this body I'd given away so often, trading sex for love, was
actually designed to give me pleasure and fulfillment in ways
that could bring me to the Goddess within.
opens and activates the chakras and, by moving sexual energy
through them, brings up whatever blocks true passion. My workshop
leaders and dakinis (assistants who come to support sexual
healing) created a sacred temple in which I felt safe to explore
the pain of being sexually violated as a child, breathing
through it to the pleasure beneath. In the exercises I could
explode in rage, shake out the blocks, and reclaim a body
ravaged by incest and years of reenactment through casual
sex. It was amazing to be so accepted with all of my pain,
respected and supported for my deep commitment to heal.
when the memories were the worst and I needed to be celibate,
Tantra gave me a way to recreate my sexuality and enjoy the
movement of orgasmic energy through my healing tissues. When
I could make love, the practices guided me to connect my heart
with my yoni (genitals) and enjoy a full-bodied extended orgasmic
play far more fulfilling than any sexuality of my former,
I find I can make love in hundreds of ways: through breathing
alone with the full moon, running energy with the Goddess
in the shower, touching hands on heart with my beloved and
simply breathing love into each other, or through full, deep
sexual exchange. Tantra adds the spiritual component so making
love feels like worship and I feel like a Goddess being honored.
Such a change. My body is now a temple and I enjoy life within
in Sonoma County Women's Voices, August, 1997